This is what it’s like to be stood up on a date. I’ve been in the dating world now for a couple of years and I’ve not even been on a proper date yet. Mainly because all the guys I’ve been talking to over the years have either ghosted me or stood me up a day before the date. I thought I’d write a little post of helpful tips for those of you who have been in similar situations. It’s incredibly frustrating when you’ve met this awesome guy and they just bail on you – it makes you question if there is something wrong with you.
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN STOOD UP ON A DATE? // HERE’S ONE OF MY STORIES.
It was last year before Christmas when the guy I was talking to. At the time said he was really interested in me. And really wanted to go on a date with me. Of course having anxiety that freaked me out a little. Because I just kept thinking ‘Well what if he hates me when we do meet?’ and I couldn’t stop freaking out so I told him I would love to. And would try to control my anxiety as it grew closer.
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I then told him I was travelling to Thailand a week after Christmas. And was super busy getting ready so I didn’t have enough time to prep myself and have the date. So I told him I would try to free a day before I went away to meet up with him. Before that I was telling him I would like to wait until after my holiday that way I could tell him about it and have some good things to talk about but he kept pressuring me and getting impatient so I told him I’d made a free day to meet him.
“Can’t talk, got a girlfriend!“
But whilst that was going on he kept telling me that I could be ‘the one’ and sending me wedding related emojis which I found kinda weird considering but then he was also telling me he was meeting up with other girls until he found ‘the one’. I mean I’m a hopeless romantic and soppy and love that kinda thing but wouldn’t do that. I agreed to meet him the weekend before we flew to Thailand and it was the day before the said date I hadn’t heard a single word from him.
And no replies to my messages and I was getting really frustrated about it and couldn’t stop crying to my Mum about it. Still didn’t hear from him that weekend and it came Monday, I messaged him saying ‘Hey’ wanting to know WTF was going on, he simply messaged me saying ‘Can’t talk, got a girlfriend!’, literally a day after we were due to go on a date. Like WTF, I was speechless!
Thank fuck I dodged that bullet, aye! What a complete and utter asshole!
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU GET STOOD UP
– Tell them how it made you feel
– Delete them out of your life
– Focus on something else, occupy your mind
Image used in this post is credit to Ivory Mix.
Have you ever been stood up on a date before? How did you feel? What did you do?
That’s horrible! Guys are crazy, I was just told yesterday by the guy I’ve been dating for over 3 months that’s we’d probably never be together. So frustrating, I like your tips!
Tell me about it! Some guys are just shocking. I can’t believe he said that to you :O
Oh no, such an awful experience but as you said, you dodged a bullet and the red flags were there with him pressuring you to meet before your holiday! Have you perhaps tried meeting up with others based on your hobbies through meetup.com for a less pressurised situation?
It is horrible but I’ve learnt from my mistakes with dating and hopefully it won’t happen again. I haven’t yet, I’ve taken a break with dating atm as it wasn’t going my way so hopefully something will come along soon! x
I’ve never been stood up on a date before, I’ve stood someone up (well I did let them know I wasn’t interested anymore before doing so) but I feel like if I did ever get stood up on a date I’d probably just take myself on the date.
Alicia x
I could never stand someone up before a date but I would tell them if I didn’t wanna see them anymore for whatever reason. I hate it though when they seem all interested and then it gets to like the day before or the day of the date and you just don’t hear from them at all and receive no apology from them about what’s happened! xx