I‘ve been in the dating world now for a couple of years and I’ve not even been on a proper date yet because all the guys I’ve been talking to over the years have either ghosted me or stood me up a day before the date. I thought I’d write a little post of helpful tips for those of you who have been in similar situations. It’s incredibly frustrating when you’ve met this awesome guy and they just bail on you – it makes you question if there is something wrong with you.
It was last year before Christmas when the guy I was talking to at the time said he was really interested in me and really wanted to go on a date with me and of course having anxiety that freaked me out a little because I just kept thinking ‘Well what if he hates me when we do meet?’ and I couldn’t stop freaking out so I told him I would love to and would try to control my anxiety as it grew closer, I then told him I was travelling to Thailand a week after Christmas and was super busy getting ready so I didn’t have enough time to prep myself and have the date so I told him I would try to free a day before I went away to meet up with him. Before that I was telling him I would like to wait until after my holiday that way I could tell him about it and have some good things to talk about but he kept pressuring me and getting impatient so I told him I’d made a free day to meet him but whilst that was going on he kept telling me that I could be ‘the one’ and sending me wedding related emojis which I found kinda weird considering but then he was also telling me he was meeting up with other girls until he found ‘the one’. I mean I’m a hopeless romantic and soppy and love that kinda thing but wouldn’t do that. I agreed to meet him the weekend before we flew to Thailand and it was the day before the said date and I hadn’t heard a single word from him and no replies to my messages and I was getting really frustrated about it and couldn’t stop crying to my Mum about it. Still didn’t hear from him that weekend and it came Monday, I messaged him saying ‘Hey’ wanting to know WTF was going on, he simply messaged me saying ‘Can’t talk, got a girlfriend!’, literally a day after we were due to go on a date. Like WTF, I was speechless!
Thank fuck I dodged that bullet, aye! What a complete and utter asshole!
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU GET STOOD UP
– Tell them how it made you feel
– Delete them out of your life
– Focus on something else, occupy your mind
Have you ever been stood up on a date before? How did you feel? What did you do?